I’m not gonna blame all the touchy people for her first virus ever.... but I’m gonna let her face tell you how she feels:
I understand why everyone wants to love on this baby- she’s cute, happy and has the most beautiful checks and eyelashes you’ve ever seen. And the touching never ends- kisses, hugs, grabbing her hands (which she puts in her mouth!). I know most people mean well, they are just too excited...
But, just because you want it, and because you feel all happy about it, that doesn’t mean she does.
And, she’s still building up her immunities.
She has no way to say “no” and is still learning boundaries.
You can love on her from afar, I promise she will still appreciate it (probably moreso). Wave, smile, blow kisses. Unless I place her in your arms, keep it to that.
And, if you really can’t hold back, ask the parents first. Thank you to those of you, friends and family who have asked me, “Can I hold her?” And “is this okay?” BEFORE grabbing her hands or kissing her.
I will be glad to tell you if she likes to be touched, held, hugged or kissed (unless you are her mom or Dad she really doesn’t right now). We are happy to help be her voice and to let her guide the way.
She did contract her first ever illness this week. Likely, it was the multiple plane rides that did it. But, either way, I’ve been thinking about the touchy/grabby thing for a while- so this post is overdue.
Here is a fantASTIC resource I came across on how to handle touchy people. I especially like #7 Touch the Person Back and #2 Interrupt their behavior. I plan to use both in different circumstances. Check it out here- 9 Ways to Tell Someone Not to Touch your Kids and Respect their Space.
You mean we’ll, I get it. You love her, I get it- just ask first. Please and Thank You.